Remember the playground game "He loves me. He loves me not"??
My little friends and I would stand outside at recess time thinking of cute boys that we liked. We would pick a flower and start pulling off the pedals, "He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me. He loves me not"......
Unfortunately this little childhood game describes my thinking for most of my growing up years.
In fact, I spent nearly 35 years of my life going through the same old destructive, self-defeating, negative thought cycle...
When I lost weight, ate the right number of "points", fit into a certain size, I would say, "They love me!".....
And when the scale increased and my pants size went up, I would think, "They love me not!!".
And given that I was a chubby little red-haired girl, most of my life I felt unloved, and my self-destructive life choices reflected that false belief.
Ridiculous, I know, that somehow we would believe the lie that...
Our worth = weight
Our love = our pants size
Our value = how thin we are
Crazy, huh?! :)
Thankfully, after years of self-loathing, binging/purging/, starving myself, Cabbage Soup, over-exercising, striving, starting over on Monday, and yes, even illegal remedies.... I AM FREE!! Hallelujah!! :)
However, my freedom came at a price.....35 years of "stinkin' thinkin'", hundreds of missed opportunities, thousands & thousands of dollars, and unfortunately it almost cost me my life.
But no more.
That's why I am declaring my life a Fat Talk Free Zone. I refuse to allow the enemy to rob me of any more joy, memories, opportunities or life!
I am committed to doing whatever I can to be a voice of TRUTH, HOPE, and encouragement to any and all who will listen! I will not allow this world to dictate where our joy, worth and value comes any longer!
I mean, have you looked at what the media screams at us???
Commericals like this one where Sara Rue shares she now feels fantastic because she can fit in skinny jeans. Skinny jeans = happiness??? Are you kidding me???
And sorry, friends, if you ask me if you have "back fat" (you know who you are ~ smile!), or tell me how fat you feel, or talk about your "muffin top", I will hand you a bumper sticker, and will remind you that.....
You are loved (period)
Not "you will be loved" when you lose the weight.
Not "you might be loved" when you go down a pants size.
You are not loved more on the days you stay within your WW points, and unloved when you eat the M&M's.
He loves you. He loves you. He loves you. He loves you. He loves you. He loves you!
and NOTHING can separate you from His perfect, unconditional, unfailing love.
And that's why I am so grateful for the Reflections Body Image Program. and their commitment to teaching women about the pursuit health, well-being, and true beauty!
If you haven't already, please head over to the Reflections site and join me in signing the Fat Talk Free promise which reads...
"Today I promise to eliminate Fat Talk from conversations with my friends, my family and myself. Starting now, I will strive for a healthy ideal, which I know looks different for every woman, and focuses on health, not weight or size.
I will celebrate the things about myself and the women in my life that have nothing to do with how we look. I decide to end Fat Talk NOW!"
Let's practice living Fat Talk Free!
For today's challenge, please call and friend and share with them something that you love about them that has nothing to do with their outside appearance.
For example (I'll go first) ~ Mom, I love you for many reasons....including your generous heart.
Aunt Debbie, I love you for your listening ear and selfless spirit.
Julie R., I love you for your listening ear, wisdom, and for always point me to Truth!
Sally B., I love you for your joyful, uplifting attitude.
Kristy D., I love you for your sensitive spirit, sparkle in your eye, and love for others.
Lisa Shaw, I love you for your praying, encouraging heart.
Julie Sanders, I love you for your caring heart, amazing way with words, and passion for family.
You get the drift?? And if you haven't done so already, please leave me a note sharing what YOU love about YOU!!!!
Let's celebrate who we are (flaws and all!) and END FAT TALK!
Thanks for stopping by *She Sparkles*!! Have a joy-filled, liberating weekend!!!
P.S. The awesome ladies at Tri Delt sent me a handful of "Friends Don't Let Friends Fat Talk" decals. If you are serious about living Fat Talk Free, drop me an email with your mailing address. I would love to send a decal your way so that you too can share this important message with others.
P.S.S. Here is the latest "Fat Talk Free" video (this is a new one I've not posted before!) Enjoy!!!